Why did I share my home birth video? Why did I share such an intimate, private, and sacred part of my life with the internet? Part 2/2
Because our birth was free of complications. For some this is not the case and for me this is all the more reason to share it.
Birth can be complication free.
It can be the most empowering experience of your life.
It can also be the least empowering.
The maternal care system especially in this country is designed to take the power away from its people. And many relinquish that responsibility so quickly and freely because we are conditioned by fear to do so, and because we do not want to put in the work that it takes to get educated or assume the responsibility for our own health and well-being. (whether bringing a new life into this world or otherwise)
Giving birth, becoming a mother, is the second of 3 major rights of passage a woman can go through. (1st being menstruation, and then menopause)
A rite of passage and how she is guided through it is what shapes her views of how she should/can handle everything after that point.
So for example during birth if she is told that she cannot handle the pain of labor, that her body is not fit to birth, or that she should just be complacent and do whatever the doctors say, that someone other than herself knows better than she does her own body, that she should sacrifice herself in the name of her child or of safety, none of that is wrong, and ALL of that is exactly how she will be conditioned to be as a mother….
While it is important to prepare for all possibilities, it's also important to prepare for and hold the vision of how you DO want your birth to go.
Education and research are essential for pregnant families. Watch videos, read books, get a doula, join a mama group and get educated!
I am not trying to shame anyone for their choices. My wish is simply that women know that they have choices when it comes to their birth experience. And that they make educated ones.
Yes, even "high risk" women.
If your doctor says otherwise, you are fully entitled to speak to a different doctor or midwife, and please please do your own research.